About the Club...


First let us start off by saying welcome and we are glad you are here at our website. 

So you would like to learn a little more about our club.  Great!!!  Maybe you are experienced in the lifestyle and looking for a place to broaden your experiences.   Or you are completely new, and looking for a place to "break the ice" and initiate yourself into the lifestyle.  Either way Virginia Friends is the perfect place.  We have found that the best way to meet "like minded" couples is through socials like ours.  We have all heard the stories of other couples trying magazine ads, telephone services, personals, the Internet, etc.  Maybe it's even happened to you.  After sifting through dozens of potential people who you think you might want to get together with, you spend countless hours trying to get to know them although you have never met in person. When you finally decide it's time to meet  98% of the time it's a complete failure and disappointment because they are too pushy or it takes forever to plan a meeting or they tell you lies and send bogus pictures or after all the trouble, you find out you don't relate and have to try and get out of an uncomfortable situation.  On top of all that IT'S DANGEROUS!!!  You are meeting complete strangers in an uncontrolled environment.

Virginia Friends is a completely different, much more relaxed, secure atmosphere.  Here you are under no obligation to do ANYTHING you do not want to.  The golden rule is "NO MEANS NO!"  You actually get to meet, see and talk to the people from the very start. And there is no uncomfortable expectations on you.  Let me walk you through an idea of what you might encounter at a Virginia Friends social.

When you first arrive at one of our socials you will notice our events take place in a clean, safe, well maintained area at a nationally known hotel .  If you are staying at the hotel you will check into your room (don't worry, the hotel staff treats you no differently than any other guest). If you have arrived early enough, between 3-5pm,  you can register at early registration set up at the hotel lounge. (check with schedule on the newsletter page as this may vary).

Once you get settled you will attended a newcomer’s seminar in the hotel lounge.  This is MANDATORY for all first time members even if you have been in the lifestyle many years.  The main purpose is to answer any questions you might have about the club or lifestyle, and to familiarize you with local rules, guidelines, club rules and etiquette, etc.  It's very informal and also gives you a chance to meet other couples ahead of time.  Anywhere from 5 to 20 new couples may attend the seminar at any given social.  

When the seminar is over  you will register at the registration desk set up outside the lounge if you have not already done so at early registration. You and your partner must each show a valid drivers license as proof of age.  Here you will pay any fees due and receive your wristbands and optional name tags.  Wristbands are worn so you can easily tell club members from regular hotel guests and so our security staff can tell who you are.  They must be worn all night and to gain admittance to the club floor upstairs.  Virginia Friends provides security for your  benefit,  privacy, and protection.  They mingle with the crowd in a very low key manner, and make sure only members are allowed admittance to members' areas (the lounge and the club floor).  You will be able to identify them by the shirts they wear and state of the art headsets which allow them to be in constant contact with each other.  Remember they are there for you and not the other hotel guests.

Now the fun begins!!!  The dance!!!  Most dances average 65 or more couples in varying age groups of 25 to 55.  Have you ever been to a nightclub with about 200 people dancing and socializing?  Our dances are no different.  The only exception is you will probably meet more people and you don't have to worry about single men hitting on your spouse.   Every one there has the same thing on their mind.  A night out to have fun and enjoy your spouse with the possibility of a little extra bonus thrown in!!!  There is no pressure.  Our live entertainment plays the latest in music to keep your feet tapping and the people are open and friendly. Just don’t be wallflowers.  Whatever you do make it a rule to meet people!!  But don't set your expectations too high.  Go with the thought that you are going to "just check it out the first time."  If you don't worry too much about the sex part, you will have a blast!!! Don't be afraid to mingle and talk to people.  You will be pleasantly surprised at how easy it is to start a conversation.  It feels great to be around "like minded" people.  If something happens and you meet another couple that interests you, great.  Or if you aren't ready no big deal.  There is always the next social or the one after that.  At VAF you set your own pace.  

The hotel provides a full service cash bar with professional bartenders to serve your favorite drinks.  We do suggest, if you are going to be drinking, get a room so you won't have to drive.

Once the dance ends the party moves to the club floor (the 2nd floor of the hotel).  The entire floor is reserved and only Virginia Friends members can gain admittance.  Security is posted at all entrances.  On the club floor anything goes.  We provide mixers and munchies...you BYOB.  The hospitality suite is open to continue your socializing.  An adjoining room  to the hospitality suite is provided for the more adventurous and "group" oriented couples.  Many times you will find the famous Sybian there for your enjoyment.  Or if you prefer something more personal all member rooms are located on the club floor with the exception of the members who prefer the non-smoking floor or when we have too many members attending to fit on the club floor.  Then the second floor rooms are booked on a first come first serve basis with members paying online having first choice.  Over flow is moved to the other floor in that order.  Whether or not you pay online and the time at which you reserve your room through the hotel will determine who has priority, NOT when you RSVP to an event.  

You will find all kinds of swing at our club.  From soft swing, to sex in the same bed with no swapping, to anything goes, to just watching.  It's all up to you.  What ever you want or don't want.  No hassle, no pressure.  Come and see for yourself.

Now just a short overview of club policies that are good to know before you attend:  

·        Absolutely NO controlled substances.

·        Each couple must have a signed club agreement on file.

·        Each couple must be 21 or older. We have the right to check IDs.

·        Club issued name tags and wristbands are required.

·        Proper dress is required in all public areas of the hotel.

·        VA ABC laws must be adhered to at all times. These laws include:

1.     No nudity in the lounge area. This includes no visible thongs ladies.

2.     All drinks purchased in the lounge must be consumed in the lounge.

3.     Drinks not purchases in the lounge may not be brought into the lounge.

4.     Bartenders are obligated to refuse service to anyone they deem too intoxicated.

·        Protect the privacy of the club and other members:

1.     Do not invite non-members to the club floor.

2.     Be careful in places where non-members can hear your conversation.

3.     Do not make suggestive comments or flaunt your activities around other hotel guests or staff.

4.  Keep all club and lifestyle activities within the lounge and club floor.

·       If your clothing is not "Street Legal," you must cover up in all public areas.

It's all really common sense.  Respect the rights of others to believe what they want to believe, and respect the club and club members right to privacy.  We strictly enforce all club and Virginia ABC policies.  

Don't delay !!  Go to our RSVP page and come see for yourself what a wonderful and fulfilling experience the lifestyle can be.

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